Lending Library and Resources

The counselling and resource centre located in Port Coquitlam has a wide selection of books and resource materials related to bereavement, loss, grieving, and support for both children and adults.  These books are open to anyone who like to borrow them.

A complete list of books with suggested age groups is listed below.  To borrow books simply email or call the charity office and we will coordinate with you.  Books and resources are lent out on a three week basis.  Multiple copies of books are available to ensure greater availability for lending.

Our Location:

#201 – 2571 Shaughnessy Street
Port Coquitlam, BC
Canada, V3C 3G3

778.285.HOPE (4673)

Contact:

For inquires, and to borrow or donate books, please contact:

Shannon
sbrooks@crccs.ca


I Miss You | By Pat Thomas
Age 3-5

This bright and colorful picture book very simply talks about life and death. It briefly covers a range of issues such as why people die, how you may feel when someone dies and what happens afterwards. It includes questions for the reader to answer about their own experiences and a section at the back for adults on how to best use the book. An excellent educational book, which could be used as a starting point for discussion.

 

 

Gentle Willow | By Joyce C. Mills, Ph.D
Age 3-5

Written for children who may not survive their illness or for the children who know them, this tender and touching tale helps address feelings of disbelief, anger, and sadness, along with love and compassion. Amanda and Little Tree discover that their friend Gentle Willow isn’t feeling well. Amanda summons the Tree Wizards, who visit Gentle Willow and determine that they can’t fix her. Amanda is angry at first, but eventually she listens to the Tree Wizards as they explain that death is a transformation and journey into the unknown. They also counsel Amanda that the medicine she can give Gentle Willow is love. In a final act of love, Amanda comforts Gentle Willow, who is afraid, with a story about the caterpillar who transforms into a butterfly. A new “Note to Parents” addresses how to cope with death and dying.

 

 

The Invisible String | By Patrice Karst
Age 4-7

Written to address children’s fear of being apart from the ones they love, The Invisible String delivers a particularly compelling message in today’s uncertain times that though we may be separated from the ones we care for, whether through anger, or distance or even death, love is the unending connection that binds us all, and, by extension, ultimately binds every person on the planet to everyone else. Parents and children everywhere who are looking for reassurance and reaffirmation of the transcendent power of love, to bind, connect and comfort us through those inevitable times when life challenges us.

 

 

Someone I Love Died | By Christine Harder Tangvald
Age 4-8

This book was written with the focus of comforting grieving children, filled with heart-healing words, fresh wa- tercolour illustrations, and practical resources that help adults guide children through loss.

 

 

Poppy’s Chair | By Karen Hesse
Age 4-8

Leah visits her grandparents every summer, but this year is different. Her grandfather has passed away. Leah and Gramm do the things they always do, but Leah doesn’t talk about Poppy – she can’t even sit in his chair. Finally, after a long talk with Gramm, Leah is able to express her fears about death, to think about Poppy, and to feel happy about her memories.

 

 

The Fall of Freddie the Leaf | By Leo Buscaglia Ph.D
Ages 4 and up

The wonderfully wise and strikingly simple story of a leaf named Freddie has become one of the most popular books of our times. How Freddie and his companion leaves change with the passing seasons, finally falling to the ground with a winters snow, is an inspiring allegory illustrating the delicate balance between life and death. After offering solace for a generation of adults and children alike, The Fall of Freddie the Leaf arrives in a classic edition with a beautiful new package that will appeal to today’s readers at a time when stories of comfort and inspiration have become more important than ever.

 

 

What’s Heaven | By Maria Shriver
Age 6-8

What should parents say when a loved one dies? Heaven is a difficult subject that always comes up at tough times, and Maria Shriver has written a very special book precisely for these stressful moments. What’s Heaven? is the story of Kate, a little girl whose great-grandma has just died. She seeks answers, and her mother helps her learn about Heaven. The many questions in this book are real, coming from Shriver’s own children, nieces, and nephews when her grandmother Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy passed away. With 900,000 copies of the book now in print, the loving, confident, and ultimately uplifting answers Shriver provides are helping readers’ families come together, feel closer to one another, and experience peace during the times when they need it most.

 

 

 A friend in Hope | Marisa Zammit
Age 4 and up

This colourful book tells the story of a little girl named Hope and her journey with a brain tumour through the eyes of her friend Danny. The story follows Hope’s journey to wellness and addresses medical procedures, symptoms such as hair loss, hospital stays as well as missing school and friends.

 

 

What is God? | Etan Boritzer
Ages 4 and up

An eloquent introduction to the ideas behind God and religion, and brings forward complex ideas in a way children will understand. It is written with a simple clarity and beautifully illustrated with just the right blend of seriousness and humor. It compares different religions — Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Hinduism, Buddhism — and their holy books, looks at misunderstandings and arguments among people of different religions, and talks about praying as well as feeling connected to everything in the world.

 

 

Lifetimes – The beautiful way to explain death to children | Bryan Mellonie
Age 4 and up

Lifetimes is a moving book for children of all ages, even parents too. It lets us explain life and death in a sensitive, caring, beautiful way. Lifetimes tells us about beginnings. And about end- ings. And about living in between. With large, wonderful illustrations, it tells about plants. About animals. About people. It tells that dying is as much a part of living as being born. It helps us to remember. It helps us to understand.

 

 

In Search of Happiness | Juliette Saumande
Ages 6 and up

In the land of Prudence, people are never unhappy. Rather than risk something bad happening, they simply never try anything new. But Alexander still isn’t happy. When the magical bird, Paradiso, tells him about a Land of Happiness, Alexander immediately follows after him.
Over the next year, Alexander explores places he’s never dreamed about. Places where he can have good and bad sweets, where all his wishes are answered, and where he can play and get bruised and meet lots of interesting new people. Alexander is finally living a complete life.

 

 

When a Friend Dies | Marilyn E. Gootman. Ed.D.
Teens

The death of a friend is a wrenching event for anyone at any age. Teenagers especially need help coping with this painful loss. This sensitive book answers questions grieving teens often have, like “How should I be acting?” “Is it wrong to go to parties and have fun?” and “What if I can’t handle my grief on my own?”   The advice is gentle, non-preachy, and compassionate; the author has seen her own children suffer from the death of a friend, and she knows what teens go through. The revised edition includes new quotes from teens, new resources, and new insights into losing a friend through violence. Also recommended for parents and teachers of teens who have experienced a painful loss.

 

 

Grieving For The Sibling You Lost: A Teen’s Guide To Coping With Grief And Finding Meaning After Loss | Erica Goldblatt Hyatt
Teens

The death of a friend is a wrenching event for anyone at any age. Teenagers especially need help coping with this painful loss. This sensitive book answers questions grieving teens often have, like “How should I be acting?” “Is it wrong to go to parties and have fun?” and “What if I can’t handle my grief on my own?”   The advice is gentle, non-preachy, and compassionate; the author has seen her own children suffer from the death of a friend, and she knows what teens go through. The revised edition includes new quotes from teens, new resources, and new insights into losing a friend through violence. Also recommended for parents and teachers of teens who have experienced a painful loss.

 

 

A Grace Disguised | Jerry Sittser
Parents and General Public

Loss in life is inevitable, but it’s possible to harness the hardship of loss and turn it into a positive event in your life. Author Jerry Sittser explores painful events like divorce, death and illness and shows that it’s not the cir- cumstances we find ourselves in at these points of loss, but how we respond to them that widens our spiritual capacity to experience blessing and growth in the midst of grief.

 

 

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart | Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D.
Parents and General Public

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart offers reassurance to parents who struggle with anger, guilt and despair after such tragedy. Deborah Davis encourages grieving and makes suggestions for coping. Added to this edition is new information on issues such as the death of one or more babies from a multiple birth, pregnancy interruption and the questioning of aggressive medical intervention. There is also a special chapter for fathers as well as a chapter on “protective parenting” to help anxious parents enjoy their precious living children. Doctors, nurses, relatives, friends and parents facing infant loss will find support and reassurance in this gentle guide.

 

 

The Bereaved Parent | Harriet Sarnoff Schiff
Parents and General Public

Practical supportive advice for bereaved parents and the professionals who work with them, based on the experiences of psychiatric and religious counsellors.  FROM THE INTRODUCTION:  “Certainly, in the early days after our son died, no one could have patted us on the our heads and convinced us everything would be all right. Nor will this book do that for you. It will, with the help of parents who have successfully coped and professional people who work with bereavement, offer guidelines and practical step-by-step suggestions to aid you.”

 

 

No Time to Say Goodbye – Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One | Carla Fine
Parents and General Public

Suicide would appear to be the last taboo. Even incest is now discussed freely in popular media, but the suicide of a loved one is still an act most people are unable to talk about–or even admit to their closest family or friends. This is just one of the many painful and paralyzing truths author Carla Fine discovered when her husband, a successful young physician, took his own life in December 1989. And being unable to speak openly and honestly about the cause of her pain made it all the more difficult for her to survive.

 

 

Her – A Memoir | Christa Parravani
Parents and General Public

Christa Parravani and her identical twin, Cara, were linked by a bond that went beyond siblinghood, beyond sisterhood, beyond friendship. Raised up from poverty by a determined single mother, the gifted and beautiful twins were able to create a private haven of splendor and merriment between themselves and then earn their way to a prestigious college and to careers as artists (a photographer and a writer, respectively) and to young marriages. But, haunted by childhood experiences with father figures and further damaged by being raped as a young adult, Cara veered off the path to robust work and life and in to depression, drugs and a shocking early death.

A few years after Cara was gone, Christa read that when an identical twin dies, regardless of the cause, 50 percent of the time the surviving twin dies within two years; and this shocking statistic rang true to her. “Flip a coin,” she thought,” those were my chances of survival.” First, Christa fought to stop her sister’s downward spiral; suddenly, she was struggling to keep herself alive.
Beautifully written, mesmerizingly rich and true, Christa Parravani’s account of being left, one half of a whole, and of her desperate, ultimately triumphant struggle for survival is informative, heart-wrenching and unforgettably beautiful.

 

 

A Path Through Loss | Nancy Reeves, Ph. D.

Parents and General Public

This self-directed, journal-based guide recognizes that grief is a process. Through well-written, practical infor- mation, it provides tools for nurturing the physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of the self. Intended for individual use, it is also a valuable tool for counselors. Includes a section on grief and children.

 

 

Where is God When It Hurts | Philip Yancey
Parents and General Public

“If there is a loving God, then why … ?” No matter how the question is completed, at its root lies the issue of pain. Does God order suffering? Or did he simply wind up the world’s mainspring and now is watching from a distance?
In this Gold Medallion Award-winning book, now revised and updated, Where is God When It Hurts reveals a God who is neither capricious nor unconcerned. Using examples from the Bible and from his own experiences, Yancey looks at pain—physical, emotional, and spiritual—and helps us understand why we suffer.

 

 

Trusting God When Life Hurts | Jim and Linda Penner
Parents and General Public

In an effort to strengthen his own trust in God during a time of adversity, Navigator author Jerry Bridges began a lengthy Bible study on God’s sovereignty. The revelations changed his life. In Trusting God, Jerry shares the scope of God’s power to help you come to know Him better, have a relationship with Him, and trust Him more―even when unjust things happen. Tragedy, grief, loss, and death are part of life. Discover how Trusting God can reveal biblical truths about God.

 

 

When We Hurt | Philip Yancey
Parents and General Public

Whether our hurt is physical, emotional, or mental, in the end it is all the same – painful. Pain is a gift; not a thought we often have, but without pain we would never know when to move our hand from a hot stove or be able to empa- thize with friends and family that are going through so much. This gift book helps us to better understand pain and how to handle it in our daily lives. As a gift for someone going through chemotherapy or a couple that lost a child, this book allows them to experience the pain that they are feeling without guilt or regret – but instead as the gift it truly is.

 

 

Red Chocolate Elephants | Diana Sands, PhD
Parents and General Public

An activity book and DVD resource for children bereaved by suicide. In a world where children are often forgotten mourners, this unique combination of text, pictures, and voices – all in the words of bereaved children themselves – will be a treasured safe haven for young people to hear their fears, questions, and difficulties put into words by oth- er children just like them. On the accompanying DVD, these same youngsters speak their words aloud as we see their drawings of their experience. The book and DVD are an excellent resource for parent and child to use together in trying to face the suicide of a loved one. This is also a valuable resource for those supporting children in schools and others therapeutic settings.

 

 

A Taste of Chicken Soup for the Soul—Think Positive | Jack Canfield
Parents and General Public

Chicken Soup for the Soul: Think Positive will inspire and uplift readers with its stories of optimism, faith, and strength. In bad times, and good, readers will be heartened to keep a positive attitude.

 

 

A Taste of Chicken Soup for the Soul—Messages from Heaven | Jack Canfield
Parents and General Public

When our loved ones leave this world, our connection with them does not end and we often receive signs from the other side. These true and touching stories of will amaze and support all readers — religious or secular. The 101 true and miraculous stories in this book of signs and messages from beyond show that death may take away the physical presence of our loved ones, but not their spirit. This book is for everyone, religious or secular, as regular people share their amazing experiences with the other side.

 

 

Our Interrupted Fairy Tale | Megan Williams
Parents and General Public

Promising tennis players Chad Warren and Megan Williams met on the court when he was 26 and she was 16. Just a few days later, Chad was diagnosed with multiple myeloma, an incurable cancer of the blood. While it would be more than three years and a bone marrow transplant before Chad and Megan finally kissed, it was the beginning of a love story you will never forget – and of a battle they shared and fought together.

 

 

Chicken Soup for the Soul, Grieving and Recovery | Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hanson and Amy Newmark
Parents and General Public

Readers mourning the loss of a loved one will find solace and strength in these 101 emotional and inspiration stories from those who have gone through the grieving process. Everyone grieves in their own way. While the hurt and sadness never completely fade, it eases with time. Contributors who have gone through the grieving and recovery process share their stories, offering guidance and support in this collection of personal and poignant stories. With its stories of re- gaining strength, appreciating life, coping, and faith, Chicken Soup for the Soul: Grieving and Recovery will ease the journey to healing.

 

 

Hold On to Your Kids—Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers | Gordon Neufeld
Parents and General Public

The troubling tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction–for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poi- sons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; it is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self- evident–as do the solutions.

 

 

Stunned By Grief—Remapping Your Life When Loss Changes Everything | Judy Brizendine
Parents and General Public

A highly focused, conversational book that cuts through the clutter and zeroes in on flashpoint issues crit- ical to a griever’s healing, the approach to grief presented here is revealing, practical, and down-to-earth. Designed for anyone struggling with death—or any of life’s tragic losses—it features straight talk from people who have been through similar situations, focusing on what to expect and how to thrive again. Tools, tips, and strategies abound to help enhance healing and life remapping. Grievers will come to real- ize they are not alone and, in the process, discover hope by connecting with the experiences of others.

 

 

No Death, No Fear | Thich Nhat Hanh
Parents and General Public

Thich Nhat Hanh shows us the connection between personal, inner peace and peace on earth. No Death, No Fear, the acclaimed teacher and poet examines our concepts of death, fear, and the very nature of existence. Through Zen parables, guided meditations, and personal stories, he explodes traditional myths of how we live and die. Thich Nhat Hanh shows us a way to live a life unfettered by fear.

 

 

When Children Grieve | By John W. Williams, Russell Friedman and Dr. Leslie Landon
Parents and General Public

 This compassionate manual addresses the nature of grief, purges common myths the worst of which, the authors claim, is that time heals all wounds (only small, positive actions can heal a person, insist James, Friedman and Matthews) and encourages adults to adopt a more healthy approach to grief themselves, so that they, in turn, can help children.

 

 

Coping When Your Spouse Dies | Medard Laz
Parents and General Public

Coping When Your Spouse Dies helps readers realize that, while you can’t bring back a spouse who died, you can face your grief in a series of stages which lead toward personal healing. The author advises those trying to cope with a loss not to bury their feelings, but rather to go through the pain of death and look toward the new life God has provided.

 

 

Peace Begins With Me | Ted Kuntz
Parents and General Public

When his son Joshua acquired an uncontrolled seizure disorder at five months of age Ted Kuntz entered one of the darkest periods of his life. After years of anger, despair, and fear Kuntz had a life-transforming encounter with his son. This encounter changed the way he saw both his son and himself. Kuntz began an intensive journey of self inquiry to discover what pointed him in the direction of peace, joy, and happiness and what pointed him in the direction of anger, sadness, and despair. Peace Begins With Me is an intriguing and inspiring summary of the wisdom acquired on this journey. Kuntz reminds us we too can experience peace, joy, and happiness through the practice of simple yet powerful practices. He takes the wisdom of ancient masters and incorporates them into day-to-day language and action. You will discover: Six ways of thinking that feed your negativity. Twelve strategies to increase your peace, joy, and happiness. The difference between stress and distress. How to create peace within.